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Helping Your Child Join in Kids Play

Playtime is more than just fun and games; it’s a vital part of childhood development. It’s where friendships are formed, social skills are honed, and imaginations are set free. But what if your child struggles to join in kids’ play? That’s where we step in. In this blog post, we’ll guide you through teaching your child how to approach, ask, and handle rejection in play situations. We also have a fantastic Goal Mine class in video form to share with your child. This video breaks down these concepts into a kid-friendly format, making learning fun and engaging.

Step 1: How to ApproachTeach your child to observe the game from a distance, understand the dynamics, and then join in politely.
Step 2: Asking Them to PlayRole-play scenarios with your child, teach them to use simple language, and encourage persistence.
Step 3: What to Do if RejectedNormalize rejection, teach resilience, and offer comfort and reassurance.

Step 1: How to Approach

Firstly, teaching your child the right way to approach their peers is crucial. It’s not about rushing in but observing, understanding, and joining in. Here’s how:

  • Observe: Encourage your child to watch from a distance. This will help them understand the game and figure out how they can fit in.
  • Understand: Talk to your child about what they’ve observed. Ask questions like, “What are the other kids doing?” or “What do you think the game rules are?” This will help them grasp the dynamics of the play.
  • Join in: Once they’ve observed and understood, it’s time to join in. Remind them to approach their peers politely and wait for a pause in the game before asking to join.

Step 2: Asking Them to Play

Now that your child knows how to approach, the next step is asking to join in. This might seem simple, but it can be daunting for a child. Here’s how you can help:

  • Role-play: Practice makes perfect. Role-play scenarios with your child where they ask you to join a game. This will help them feel more confident when it’s time to do it for real.
  • Use simple language: Teach your child to use simple, direct language when asking to join in. Phrases like, “Can I play too?” or “Is it okay if I join?” are clear and easy to understand.
  • Encourage persistence: Sometimes, the first attempt might not be successful. Encourage your child to try again later or with a different group of kids.
kids play. two kids are playing together at the beach.
Read more: Signs of a Socially Awkward Child

Step 3: What to Do if Rejected

Rejection is a part of life, and teaching your child how to handle it gracefully is essential. Here’s how:

  • Normalize rejection: Explain to your child that everyone experiences rejection at some point, and it’s okay. It doesn’t mean they’re not liked or wanted; it just means that particular game wasn’t the right fit.
  • Teach resilience: Encourage your child to try again with a different game or group of kids. Resilience is a valuable life skill that will serve them well beyond the playground.
  • Offer comfort: If your child is upset, offer comfort and reassurance. Let them know it’s okay to feel disappointed, but it’s important not to dwell on it.
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Joining in kids’ play is a significant step in your child’s social development. It might seem daunting at first, but with your guidance and patience, your child will soon be playing and making friends with ease. Remember, it’s not about winning or losing; it’s about learning, growing, and having fun. Want to unlock more life skills lessons for your child? Get Goally’s dedicated Tablet to access our full range of video lessons, including more on “kids’ play.” The embedded YouTube video in this blog only covers step #1, but there’s so much more to discover. Happy playing!

FAQ’s About Kids Play

How can Goally help improve kids' play skills?
Goally enhances kids' play skills by offering video classes that teach them structured and engaging activities of daily living, promoting learning through play.

What types of play activities are covered in Goally's video classes?
Goally covers a range of play activities, from educational games to creative exercises, ensuring a well-rounded approach to skill development.

Does Goally use task analysis to teach kids how to play better?
Yes, Goally utilizes task analysis to break down play activities into manageable steps, making it easier for kids to grasp and enjoy the process.

Is Goally suitable for kids with different play skill levels?
Absolutely, Goally's adaptive approach caters to kids of all play skill levels, encouraging progress at their own pace.

Can I customize play routines with Goally to suit my child's interests?
Yes, Goally allows you to personalize play routines, so your child can engage in activities they love while improving their play skills.
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