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Autism Crying | How to Help

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Parenting a kid with autism can be challenging, especially when they experience frequent crying episodes. You want to help, but you may not know where to start. That’s where this guide comes in. We’ll provide you with actionable steps to better understand and support your child through their autistic crying episodes. By following these steps, you’ll be better equipped to help your child navigate their emotions and create a more peaceful environment for everyone involved.

1. Recognize the Triggers

Firstly, it’s essential to identify the potential triggers for your child’s autism crying. These could include sensory overload, changes in routine, or frustration with communication. Keep a journal to track when and where the crying episodes occur, and look for patterns. This will help you understand why your autistic child is always crying and allow you to address the root causes.

Some common triggers for autism crying include:

  • Loud noises
  • Bright lights
  • Unexpected changes in routine
  • Difficulty expressing emotions or needs
Read More: 5 Autism Triggers in Kids

2. Create a Calming Environment

A calming environment can significantly reduce autism crying episodes. Consider your child’s sensory needs and create a space that minimizes sensory overload. This may involve dimming lights, reducing noise, or providing soft textures for comfort. Moreover, maintaining a consistent routine can also help your child feel more secure and reduce anxiety.

Using a tool like Goally can help you establish and maintain a consistent routine for your child. Goally is a learning tablet designed specifically for neurodivergent kids, offering customizable schedules, visual timers, and reward systems to help your child feel more in control of their environment.

Goally tablet showing Mood Tuner, the emotional regulation app for kids to help them manage big emotions.

3. Encourage Communication

For many neurodivergent kids, crying can be a form of communication. Encourage your kid to express their feelings and needs using alternative methods, such as visual aids, sign language, or communication apps. In addition, praise your child when they successfully communicate their emotions, as this will reinforce positive behavior.

autism crying. a kid is looking out a rainy window.
Read more: How to Calm an Autistic Child During a Meltdown

Goally also offers apps designed to help kids with thinking and learning differences improve their communication skills. By incorporating these tools into your child’s daily routine, you can help them find new ways to express themselves and reduce their reliance on crying as a means of communication.

4. Teach Coping Strategies

Help your child develop coping strategies to manage their emotions and reduce autism crying. This may include deep breathing exercises, counting, or engaging in a calming activity like drawing or listening to music. Practice these strategies together during calm moments so your child is better prepared to use them during times of distress.

Some effective coping strategies include:

  • Deep breathing exercises
  • Counting to ten
  • Engaging in a favorite calming activity
  • Using a stress ball or fidget toy
Read More: Top 5 Coping Skills Activities for Kids

5. Offer Comfort and Reassurance

During a crying episode, offer comfort and reassurance to your child. Let them know that you understand their feelings and are there to help. Use a gentle tone of voice and maintain a calm demeanor to help your child feel safe and supported.

autism crying a mom holds her kid while standing.
Read More: Helping Kids Develop Coping Skills

Some ways to offer comfort and reassurance include:

  • Hugging or holding your child
  • Speaking in a soft, soothing voice
  • Offering a favorite toy or comfort item
  • Validating their feelings and letting them know it’s okay to be upset

6. Seek Professional Support

If your child’s autism crying is persistent and impacting their daily life, consider seeking professional support. A therapist or specialist with experience in autism can provide guidance and strategies tailored to your child’s unique needs.

Some professionals who can help include:

  • Occupational therapists
  • Speech and language therapists
  • Behavioral therapists
  • Autism specialists

Tired of Emotional Meltdowns?

Goally’s Mood Tuner app has activities for kids with BIG emotions. Teach kids how to tune their mood with Goally. See fewer meltdowns.

The Mood Tuner app encourages kids to look inwards and identify their feelings, helping them understand what’s going on inside. Once they’ve recognized their emotions, they can choose from a 20+ activities designed to help them self-regulate and find their balance.

Goally tablet showing Mood Tuner, the emotional regulation app for kids to help them manage big emotions.

In short, understanding the reasons behind your child’s autism crying is crucial in providing the support they need. By recognizing triggers, creating a calming environment, encouraging communication, teaching coping strategies, offering comfort, and seeking professional support, you can help your child navigate their emotions and reduce the frequency of crying episodes. Remember, every child is different, and it may take time to find the right combination of strategies that work best for your family. But with patience and persistence, you can make a positive difference in your child’s life.

FAQ’s About Autism Crying

Why do autistic children cry frequently?
Autistic children may cry frequently due to difficulties with communication, sensory overload, or changes in routine, which can cause anxiety and frustration.

How can parents help autistic children who cry often?
Parents can help by identifying triggers, providing a calm and structured environment, using visual supports, and teaching effective communication and coping strategies.

Is crying a form of stimming for autistic individuals?
Crying is not typically considered a form of stimming in autism. It is more commonly a response to emotional distress or sensory overload.

When should parents be concerned about their autistic child's crying?
Yes, therapy and interventions such as applied behavior analysis (ABA), sensory integration therapy, and social skills training can help reduce crying episodes by addressing underlying causes and teaching alternative coping mechanisms.

This post was originally published on 06/02/2023. It was updated on 10/20/2023.

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